Tuesday, 1 January 2019

40 before 40: not long left now

Happy New Year!

It's only 10 weeks (or 70 days) to go until I enter a new decade! So, time for an update on how I'm doing so far...

Completed

Read 40 books - At the end of 2018 I have read over 100 books (final number to be confirmed in two days time), so this challenge has been well and truly achieved! Here's a link to my reading blog if you are interested!
Join a book club - At the beginning of the year I joined Bookish Mamas, which is a Facebook-based book club. It was originally aimed at mums, but lots of people on there aren't mums now. It's exposing me to books that I wouldn't naturally read, and gives the pleasure of a monthly discussion about the book.
Go to a weekend Bible Conference - In April I attended the Hillsong Colour Conference in Wembley, London, with my sisters, cousin and friend. It was an amazing weekend, with great singing, Bible teaching and time to be me. It was just so refreshing! I have already booked to go again next year and am looking forward to it!
Cook on a fire pit - We got a fire pit as a Christmas present and have been looking forward to some warmer weather to use it. I know that a true 'forest school' family would have been sitting around it in the January snow, but we wanted warmer weather to try it out for the first time!! Last weekend gave us that opportunity and we enjoyed sausages and marshmallows cooked on it. Looking forward to a summer of fire-cooked food!
Visit a new place - On 6th May we visited Coventry; we attended the 50th anniversary of Tearfund at the cathedral. Before having children I worked for Tearfund for seven years. It is a great charity and does amazing work. Back to Coventry... what a beautiful pair of cathedrals; the old derelict building which was destroyed in the war and the new striking building built overlooking the old. Coventry as a city seems to be pretty normal, but the area around the cathedrals is very pretty.
Learn a new craft skill - I started doing modern calligraphy last year, but I am now learning the more formal 'Classic Copperplate' calligraphy. This is much harder work than I had imagined, but the lettering is beautiful! Must keep practising!
Volunteer for something - I am currently volunteering at my children's school and am going in a reading with a class of children each week. This is one of the highlights of my week and such a great opportunity to keep children reading!
Grow something from scratch - Caleb and I attended an allotment playgroup during the summer and we did planting and digging and watering and weeding. We planted a bean seed in a cup which was then transferred into a trough in the garden: we enjoyed one meal's worth of beans! I also planted some tomato and strawberry seeds in hanging baskets; the strawberry seeds didn't sprout, but the tomatoes did and had a lovely sweet flavour. They didn't get very big though!!
Go glamping - In the October half term we had a lovely week in Somerset in a log cabin. This cabin had no power, so we cooked and heated the cabin using the log stove, and used candles for lights. The best day was when we cooked our chicken casserole on the fire pit and ate outside! It was an amazing week and we have already planned to do it again next year.
Walk 400 miles - So far I have walked 1,074 miles in 2018! I have now signed up to Race at Your Pace for January and I am aiming to walk 125 miles; my plan is to achieve that each month and hit 1,500 miles in 2019!
Go for afternoon high tea - Well, I managed this twice this year! The first was whilst we were on holiday in Cheddar, and I enjoyed an 'Afternoon Tea' for my lunch; Caleb had the children's version, and we both struggled to finish it! The second was a few weeks ago as part of my Christmas celebrations; this one was lovely as it included some christmassy treats!
Go to a Christmas Market - I had a lovely day out at the Birmingham's Frankfurt Christmas Market with my friend Beth. We enjoyed wandering around the stalls, enjoying the festive aromas of gluhwein, sausages and sweet treats (especially the heiße Schokolade in our special mugs!) and some shopping!
Cook a new recipe every month - I have enjoyed this challenge, but I wish I had kept a list of what we have tried! One thing we have enjoyed as a family are Daddy's Travel Meals - each time Steve travels for work we try something from that country. We have tried food from India, Italy, Hungary, Germany and Mexico; this has been a great way of getting the children interested in food from other countries.
Do something I loved as a child - As a child I loved swimming and was actually quite good at it; I even swum for my town a couple of times. Back in the summer I started swimming regularly and really enjoyed it, but last term it slipped (which is silly as I had more time with both children being at school). In the New Year I will restart this as it is something that I definitely loved as a child, and still love now!
Share meals with 40 different friends - I have completely forgotten to count the number of people we have shared meals with! But I have learnt that hospitality doesn't have to be perfect; I don't need to serve a michelin starred meal with an immaculate house! My house can be messy and friends can just come and share food. Bring on the hygge!

In Progress

Read the whole Bible cover to cover - I am continuing to read through the Bible, and know that I need to put more effort into it; not only for this challenge but also as a Christian I should be reading my Bible more! I have just bought the first part of the Bible on Audible (read by David Suchet - amazing voice!) which I am looking forward to listening too - only 45 hours to listen to!!
40 dates with Steve - We have had a few but need to up our game and be much more intentional!
Find 40 geocaches - Oh dear, only 11 found in 2018! That means I have 73 days to find 29 caches... Game on...
Send 40 letters/postcards - Do Christmas cards count??!
Finish a cross stitch - I am still working on a Little Miss and Mr Men cross stitch that I started about 7 years ago before our Little Miss was born! I am determined to get it finished now...
Learn to play Clair de Lune on the piano - hmm... this is not an easy piece! And I need to practise more, as well as getting the piano tuned so it doesn't sound as bad as it currently does!
Do 40 Random Acts Of Kindness - I signed up to do #40acts during Lent and this was a great challenge. Due to ill health I didn't manage to do all 40 acts during the season so I will continue and get them done this year.
Complete couch to 5k - I have done two weeks of this and am actually getting excited about getting back to it next week. It'll be tight to get it completed but I will do my best!
Get my bmi into healthy zone - On 18th April I bravely walked into my first Weight Watchers meeting having decided that I needed some help to achieve this challenge. I have now lost over a stone in weight and my BMI is in the middle of the overweight range so things are definitely moving in the right direction. Another stone and a bit will see me into the healthy range...
Raise £400 for charity - So far I have raised £294.56 for the British Heart Foundation and £20 for Heart Failure Aware (£314.56 total). £85.44 left to raise!
Complete 40 calligraphy pieces - Over the year so far I have done 17 paid pieces of work; I also took part in #30daysofbiblelettering in October and managed 16 pieces. So 33 in total. 7 pieces left to complete over the next 10 weeks! (Check out my Facebook page for my work: https://www.facebook.com/meandmyinkpot/)
Learn to take a decent photograph with my camera - My old faithful camera has slowly died in the last few months due to a scratch on the lens, so I am getting a new one with my Christmas money. I am looking forward to getting used to a new camera and all it can do.
See a musical on stage - Not quite a musical, but Zoë and I have booked to go and see The Nutcracker ballet on stage in February. I'm so excited about this.

To Do

Decorate our bedroom - I am looking forward to getting started on this once the children are back at school! It have started our room a little later than planned as Zoë asked for her room to be done as part of her birthday present. I have come up with a colour scheme and some decor ideas...
Plant a tree - My parents have said that they would like to buy me a tree for my 40th birthday present, so I am looking forward to planting that in our garden in the spring. We need to decide what size tree will be best!
Have a 40th birthday party - Planned for March 2019! Though I do need to actually decide what I want to do... any ideas?
Eat a meal in a Michelin star restaurant - Steve has booked a day off near my birthday; do you think I can convince him that we need to have lunch out??
Try a new food - Hoping to combine this one with my Michelin Star restaurant visit!!
Make bread from scratch - Not too difficult, but I just need to do it! Maybe next week whilst the children are still off school!
Learn a new cookery skill - I need to decide what to do for this - any ideas?
Revisit a favourite city/place - I don't know where to go!

Not done

Have a family portrait done - I've decided not to prioritise this, but we've enjoyed getting some professional photos printed for our wall. 
Sleep under the stars - I can't believe I missed completing this challenge in the summer months! I will make sure that it is ticked off next summer.
Climb a mountain - I had hoped to get this one ticked off, but I have run out of time. Hopefully I can get it completed in 2019.
See the Northern Lights - This was always going to be the least likely one to achieve, but it was nice to dream!

Friday, 25 May 2018

40 before 40: 100 days in...

Today is a quarter of the way through my 40 before 40 year, and I'm feeling pretty positive! Lots of things have been done, or are well on the way, and other things have been planned into the year. I'm loving having a mix of challenges and some easier things for enjoyment too... I thought you'd like an update on how I'm doing. To make it a little easier to read I will put the completed tasks in blue, the started tasks in green and the 'not yet' ones in yellow...

  1. Read 40 books - I am well on the way with this challenge and had read 34 books by the end of April, so this challenge should be completed in May. I have been blogging about them over on my other blog. Here's the link if you fancy a read.
  2. Read the whole Bible cover to cover - hmm, this one has been started but needs a good input of time and priority given to it!
  3. Join a book club - At the beginning of the year I joined Bookish Mamas, which is a Facebook-based book club. It was originally aimed at mums, but lots of people on there aren't mums now. It's exposing me to books that I wouldn't naturally read, and gives the pleasure of a monthly discussion about the book. 
  4. Go to a weekend Bible Conference - In April I attended the Hillsong Colour Conference in Wembley, London, with my sisters, cousin and friend. It was an amazing weekend, with great singing, Bible teaching and time to be me. It was just so refreshing! I have already booked to go again next year and am looking forward to it!
  5. See a musical on stage
  6. 40 dates with Steve - We have had a few but need to up our game and be much more intentional!
  7. Find 40 geocaches - I have found 3 geocaches so far. Need to get out and about more!!
  8. Walk 400 miles - So far I have walked 312.79 miles! This month I am also walking a marathon to raise money for British Heart Foundation: if you'd like to sponsor me please use this link (all donations greatly appreciated) https://mymarathon18.everydayhero.com/uk/rebecca-dennis 
  9. Send 40 letters/postcards - I have written 1 letter so far! Better get writing...
  10. Finish a cross stitch - I am working on a Little Miss and Mr Men cross stitch that I started about 7 years ago before our Little Miss was born! I am determined to get it finished now...
  11. Decorate our bedroom - Planned for the autumn after Caleb has started school!
  12. Share meals with 40 different friends 
  13. Eat a meal in a Michelin star restaurant
  14. Cook a new recipe every month - This has been going well and I have enjoyed the challenge of a new recipe. May's recipe was a lovely Crunchy Tuna and Broccoli Pasta Bake from the Delicious magazine. (https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/crunchy-melty-tuna-and-broccoli-pasta-bake/)
  15. Cook on a fire pit - We got a fire pit as a Christmas present and have been looking forward to some warmer weather to use it. I know that a true 'forest school' family would have been sitting around it in the January snow, but we wanted warmer weather to try it out for the first time!! Last weekend gave us that opportunity and we enjoyed sausages and marshmallows cooked on it. Looking forward to a summer of fire-cooked food!
  16. Grow something from scratch - Caleb and I have started attending an allotment playgroup on a Friday and we have been planting and digging and watering and weeding. A few weeks ago we planted beans which are now sprouting and ready for planting into the ground. I have also planted some tomato and strawberry seeds in hanging baskets so am hopeful that I will have something to eat later in the year!
  17. Try a new food
  18. Make bread from scratch
  19. Go for afternoon high tea
  20. Go to a Christmas Market - Planned for November/December!
  21. Learn to play Clair de Lune on the piano - hmm... this is not an easy piece!
  22. Do 40 Random Acts Of Kindness - I signed up to do #40acts during Lent and this was a great challenge. Due to ill health I didn't manage to do all 40 acts during the season so I will continue and get them done this year.
  23. Learn to take a decent photograph with my camera
  24. Have a family portrait done
  25. Go glamping - Booked for October!!
  26. Learn a cookery skill
  27. See the Northern Lights
  28. Complete couch to 5k - I have completed Step 1 of downloading the app! Now I just need to get started, but it will be after May as I am doing the #mymarathon this month for British Heart Foundation.
  29. Climb a mountain
  30. Get my bmi into healthy zone - On 18th April I bravely walked into my first Weight Watchers meeting having decided that I needed some help to achieve this challenge. Over the past month I have lost 7lbs (half a stone), clothes are fitting better and my resting heart rate has dropped from an average of 67bpm to an average of 59bpm! And according to the NHS BMI calculator I am no longer obese, just overweight! Looking forward to losing more weight and getting healthier in the process.
  31. Have a 40th birthday party - Planned for March 2019!
  32. Raise £400 for charity - This month I am doing #mymarathon for British Heart Foundation. So far I have raised £149.53, but more sponsorship has been promised and is trickling in. Back in March I also asked for donations to BHF instead of birthday gifts and raised an additional £85. I am over halfway to my target!
  33. Complete 40 calligraphy pieces - I have done 2 completed pieces and am currently working on 2 cards. I've not had that much time to do calligraphy recently, but am trying to get back into sitting at my desk. (Check out my Facebook page for more designs: https://www.facebook.com/meandmyinkpot/)
  34. Sleep under the stars
  35. Revisit favourite city/place
  36. Visit a new place - On 6th May we visited Coventry; we attended the 50th anniversary of Tearfund at the cathedral. Before having children I worked for Tearfund for seven years. It is a great charity and does amazing work.  Back to Coventry... what a beautiful pair of cathedrals; the old derelict building which was destroyed in the war and the new striking building built overlooking the old. Coventry as a city seems to be pretty normal, but the area around the cathedrals is very pretty.
  37. Plant a tree
  38. Do something I loved as a child
  39. Learn a new craft skill - I started doing modern calligraphy last year, but I am now learning the more formal 'Classic Copperplate' calligraphy. This is much harder work than I had imagined, but the lettering is beautiful! Must keep practising! 
  40. Volunteer for something - I am currently volunteering at my children's school and am going in a reading with a class of children each week. This is one of the highlights of my week and such a great opportunity to keep children reading!
4. Go to a weekend Bible conference

10. Finish a cross stitch

15. Cooking on a fire pit

36. Visit a new place









Monday, 5 February 2018

40 before 40: The List



In March 2019 I will be turning 40; I'm not quite sure that I feel ready to be that old, but according to my birthday certificate it is definitely true! And the following year Steve will be joining me. We've decided to both do a serious of 40 challenges.

So, in the next 400 days I am hoping to do all of these challenges. I will give you regular updates as I go.

I'd also love any help I can get so if you want to join me or help me in one of the challenges then please get in touch!

  1. Read 40 books in 2018
  2. Read the whole Bible cover to cover
  3. Join a book club
  4. Go to a weekend Bible Conference
  5. See a musical on stage
  6. 40 dates with Steve
  7. Find 40 geocaches
  8. Walk 400 miles
  9. Send 40 letters/postcards
  10. Finish a cross stitch
  11. Decorate our bedroom
  12. Share meals with 40 different friends
  13. Eat a meal in a Michelin star restaurant
  14. Cook a new recipe every month
  15. Cook on a fire pit
  16. Grow some food from scratch
  17. Try a new food
  18. Make bread from scratch
  19. Go for afternoon high tea
  20. Go to a Christmas Market
  21. Learn to play Clair de Lune on the piano
  22. Do 40 Random Acts Of Kindness
  23. Learn to take a decent photograph with my camera
  24. Have a family portrait done
  25. Go glamping
  26. Learn a cookery skill
  27. See the Northern Lights
  28. Complete couch to 5k
  29. Climb a mountain
  30. Get my bmi into healthy zone
  31. Raise £400 for charity
  32. Complete 40 calligraphy pieces
  33. Sleep under the stars
  34. Revisit favourite city/place
  35. Visit a new city/place
  36. Plant a tree
  37. Do something I loved as a child
  38. Learn a new craft skill
  39. Volunteer for something
  40. Have a 40th birthday party

Saturday, 6 January 2018

2018: thoughts and challenges

It's Epiphany today; the day that is set aside in the church calendar to remember the visit of the Wise Men to a toddler Jesus. It's also the day that I feel that I am coming out of the festive season and am ready to look forward to the coming year. I don't really do specific resolutions, but I love the idea of new beginnings. So, here are my thoughts on 2018.


Bible Verse and Word:

This year's Bible verse is:
"The joy of the Lord is my strength." Nehemiah 8:10

My word of the year is joy. What is joy? Is it the same as happiness or different? Over the year I am planning on digging a bit deeper into this word and what the Bible has to say about it. I'm also excited about doing some linguistic work and looking at joy in the original languages (שִׂמְחָה [simchah] in Hebrew and χαρά [chara] in Greek).


No-spend January (and more?)

A challenge that I have set myself for the beginning of the year is to stop spending money! I am trying to declutter and simplify my life, family and house, and one way of doing this is to restrict what comes into the house. Obviously I can spend money on essentials, such as food and fuel!

I have already had two opportunities come up: 

  • first, the book club which I have joined has set a book to read which I don't own. Normally I would pop onto Amazon and buy a copy which would arrive next day. But I couldn't do that this time and I was floored! Until someone suggested a radical solution called 'a library' - you know, that building which lends out books for free (unless you incur a fine for late return). Perfect! And what a reminder to me that I don't always need to spend money.
  • secondly, I need a radiator key to bleed a couple of radiators which don't seem to be working very efficiently. Again, I turn to the internet and spot a key which costs a couple of pounds... But I don't do it and ask on Facebook for someone to lend (or give) me one. Instead I get an offer of someone to come round and do it all for me, and in return I offer my husband's services to have a quick look at a child's bike which needs repairing. No money spent and two people have receive help.

I am actually quite excited about finding ways around my 'no-spend' January! Any tips to help me?


40 before 40

My big plan for 2018 links in with a challenge that I am setting myself. In March 2019 I will be turning 40 and Steve and I have decided that it'd be a great idea to have a '40before40' list of 40 things I need to do or achieve before my birthday. I am in the process of compiling a list and will share it at the end of the month when the final list is decided, but there are some exciting things finding their way onto that list... What would you put on your list?



Sunday, 17 December 2017

Advent 2017: 16 December

Neighbours, everybody needs good neighbours 
Just a friendly wave each morning, helps to make a better day 
Neighbours, need to get to know each other 
Next door is only a footstep away 

From the Australian TV show "Neighbours" 
(Tony Hatch / Jackie Trent)

Sometimes plans go awry and I am continually learning to be flexibly organised! Yet again this advent has thrown curve balls at me resulting in changes; I'm sure you're actually relieved not to have to read daily updates of the Dennis advent!! Anyway, I thought I'd share with you what we have got up to this weekend.

For a few years now I have like the idea of inviting neighbours round for Christmas drinks and nibbles, but it's not been possible for various reasons. This year we planned and managed to make it happen. Do you know your neighbours? We moved into a road of 36 houses last January and it's been slow getting to know people. There are some people who do the school run at the same time and we say hello and wave; or there are the neighbours who take in parcels for us (and vice versa) and we say hello and thank you; and then there are those that we just don't see. How did we shift into such an isolated existence? It wasn't long ago that roads like ours would have been a real community.

We decided to do something about this and posted Christmas cards to nine of our closest neighbours, as well as inviting them round to ours for a Christmas Open House. Out of the nine only two families were able to make it, but that is two more that we knew before! It was lovely to spend time with them and put names to faces. But the thing that blessed me most about those who weren't able to come were the lovely replies we had; we now have names and the embryonic form of a neighbourly relationship. Maybe, step-by-step, we can rebuild a sense of community in this street, as well as sharing our faith with people.

In other news we forgot to do our From Christmas to Creation story due to the busyness of the day, and we opened our Wrapped Books from 14 and 15 December but ended up reading something completely different! My Advent Readings this week have been more about Mary, but more about that tomorrow when I will summarise the week!

Monday, 4 December 2017

Advent 2017: 4 December

Yesterday was the first Sunday in Advent. I have been brought up as a baptist and evengelical which means that I have never really experienced Advent with candles and liturgy. After being part of a forum for Christian Mums I have grown more interested in the liturgy and am spending some time this advent taking part in a Bible study which is being run by an anglican friend. Here is my candle for yesterday and here is a special prayer from the Anglican Church liturgy which can be used every day during Advent:

Almighty God,
give us grace to cast away the works of darkness
and to put on the armour of light,
now in the time of this mortal life,
in which your Son Jesus Christ came to us in great humility;
that on the last day,
when he shall come again in his glorious majesty
to judge the living and the dead,
we may rise to the life immortal;
through him who is alive and reigns with you,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, now and for ever. Amen

Our Wrapped Book today has been one I have been very excited about. It is one of our new ones and comes from an American company via a friend at school. It is called The Miracle of the First Poinsettia: A Mexican Christmas Story. (This was going to be particularly poignant as Steve was meant to be travelling to Mexico today but the trip has now been postponed to January.) It's a lovely story looking at how 'a gift from the heart is the best gift of all'.

We didn't get to look in our Advent Adventure Tin today until dinner-time so it was too late to 'go on a wintery walk and collect pine cones' but we will definitely keep that one for the weekend, especially as we have a Forest School morning planned on Saturday!

This evening we were thinking about waiting and waiting... Generally children find waiting very hard and mine are no different! Our From Creation to Christmas story told us how God had promised Abraham and Sarah a baby son, and that they would go on and have as many children as the stars in the sky and grains of sand along the seashore. That is a lot of children! But they had to wait until Sarah was in her 90s... not sure I'd want to be starting to have children that late in life. But we were reminded that from Abraham and Sarah would come Jesus (many many years later) - again another link to the Christmas story.

After planning my Advent Readings yesterday I have found another possibility today. Recently I have been part of a community called Mummy Meditations which has been looking at women in the Bible. Last month it was Sarah (mentioned above) and this month we are looking at Mary, the mother of Jesus. This will be a fascinating study as it is very easy to assume I know all about Mary, but I suspect a lot of my 'knowledge' is based on popular culture stories and traditions, rather than on the Bible text.

Advent 2017: 3 December

"They put a big tree in the middle of the living room and say "don't touch". Didn't work in the Garden of Eden and it's not going to work here." Honest Toddler

We had another very busy day today as we go to church on Sundays. So the day started with a pain au chocolat breakfast, followed by our Real Advent Calendar: this is telling us the Christmas story sentence by sentence which is a good balance to our sweeping overview stories in the evening.

In the afternoon we headed off with some of our church to a local Care Home for the elderly and those suffering from dementia. We go once a month to take a simple church service, but this was the extra special carol service. It was so lovely to see some men and women who are really not with it come alive at the sound of a familiar carol. Our Advent Adventure Tin activity for today was to do something for someone less fortunate than yourself: I think this (as well as packing shoeboxes yesterday) fits this perfectly.

When we got home we had a fun afternoon colouring in Christmas cards for our friends. I think Steve may have coloured the most, but it was a chilled activity that everyone enjoyed.

Our From Creation to Christmas story was a sad one today as we read about how Adam and Eve were disobedient and ate the fruit that God had told them not to. We went on to talk about how we are disobedient, but more importantly how God sent Jesus to take the punishment for our sins. It was good to see them link the story we'd read with the reason for the celebration of Christmas!

Wrapped Books - to be updated when I find the book and remember what it was!!

Today we were given a gift of The One True Gift by Tim Chester. This book has 24 readings which I will probably use for my Advent Readings.